Love and Acceptance

I've been hearing about Far from the Tree, a book by Andrew Solomon about parents who have children who don't fit with mainstream expectation (deaf, Down's, gay, transgender...) with minimal interest.  However, today Andrew Sullivan's blog contains an excerpt which makes me want to pick up the book and have a look.

[B]efore I started on the book, I hadn’t drawn the distinction—which has become important to me since—which is between love and acceptance. You know, I feel as though when I was in the process of coming out of the closet it was upsetting for my parents, especially for my mother, and they weren’t very accepting of it. And I experienced that as their not being very loving. And actually, what I recognized writing the book, is that parents of children who have some kind of difference almost always have to struggle with it, and often manage to come through, and it’s their love that motivates them to come to terms with the strangeness or difference or whatever it is that’s extraordinary in their children. And having looked at all these other families I was able to say: Okay, my family didn’t throw me out, they didn’t want nothing to do with me, they weren’t actively rejecting. It just took them a while to get used to it.