Recently I did some committee
work with a woman who seemed to have a negative comment and prediction about
everything. It didn’t take long before
her comments began to irritate me. In a
small way, they became painful. Then I
felt bad about my thoughts, and that “You’re too judgmental recording,” started playing. I managed to stop myself from doing a
little internal rant about her personality deficiencies.
Later I thought about
tomatoes. I really don’t like the taste
of raw tomatoes. It’s not a judgment; to
me, they’re just icky! The tomatoes
themselves are innocent, and I love the role they play in pasta, pizza, and
chili, but the taste and texture of raw tomatoes make me gag.
Maybe I just didn't like the taste
of the woman’s negativity. But I love
her contributions to the project, and she
is a dedicated worker.
This is not the full story
about negative judgments. Sometimes
people give me a bad taste because my ego feeds me ideas about how bad they
are. But I find the tomato analogy useful.
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